I am writing this post as part of the Verizon Wireless Lifestyle Bloggers program. Being part of the program does not in anyway influence this post in anyway. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. I am a survivor of domestic Violence. I shared my story here. This story took place over 20 years ago. Since then I have prided myself on how far I have come. I have been a proud survivor. I have repeated over and over that I am a survivor and never going to put myself in a position to be abused again.
Today I sit and thank God I have come as far as I have.
Since I left my abuser I have remained very close to his family, after all they are my daughter's family also. In the last year and a half of his mother's life I was there to help take care of her. When she passed away I worried about what would happen but I was told abuser wanted to let me stay there with the boys, and even had it on paper.
Things seemed to be OK for over a year, I even had roof replaced so I had a place for the boys.
For the last few months I have seen signs of a change, to the point of feeling the need to add a voice recorder and the app. Circle of 6 on my phone. I recorded several times when he came into the house and was looking for an argument. Anything he said that was out of place I have saved on my phone and several other devices.
This weekend I went to NYC for some social media work. I received a call from him. He was flipping out. I told him to leave me alone. While I was gone my daughter messaged me and said he had a crazy spell and went into the house and messed up/destroyed things.
I came home to find many of my things destroyed. He had thrown things outside, or just thrown around the house and smashed. My laptop, other electronics destroyed. Things he knew I needed for work ruined. Items in my yet to review pile. broken in pieces, and this:
This is my new HTC one9 that I was so excited to get to try out.
This is an abuser. An abuser will take and destroy the things they know you need and want the most and destroy them.
I called the police. I did not fear him. I took away the right for him to cause fear in me. Many in domestic violence situations have been so abused, emotionally and physically, that they can't fight back.
I look at where I was all those years ago and look at where I am now. I know how far I have come. I may be looking for a new home. I may have been victimized but I had in place ways to stop it.
I can not tell you how important my phone has been to me. A hidden phone in the hands of a victim can mean the difference between life and death. You can help make it happen.
Since the launch of Verizon Wireless's Hopeline, in 2001 the stats on the number of victims who have received a lifeline are incredible.
Please, If you have a phone laying around donate it. If you have a friend you are worried are a victim, let them know you are there for them, tell them about Hopeline and encourage them to download the app Circle of 6 on it.
"Throughout the month of October, Verizon will offer an exclusive line of purple HopeLine accessories, where each purchase will activate a $1 donation to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, up to $100,000. Featured accessories include phone cases, a headset, tablet case and more. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides an abundance of resources and immediate support to enable victims find safety and live life free of abuse."